This and That (From The Kid)

Why are we so critical of others? In most circumstances we do not apply the same expectations and standards to ourselves that we use to judge others. There are also times in which we are too critical of ourselves, self-ruminating on our faults and mistakes to the highest degree. Unfortunately, you are the only person who knows all of your secrets, errors, lapses in judgement, biases. This is dangerous. By knowing too much about ourselves, we allow our mind to turn into a constant critic. We turn against ourselves in most circumstances.

It is known we are more likely to administer medication properly to our pets than we are ourselves. We are more likely to take care of an animal than we are ourselves. We see the innocence in our pets. We are quick to forgive and eager to love. Why is it so hard for us to apply this to others, better yet ourselves? Why can’t we take care of ourselves like we are responsible for taking care of someone or something else?

We haven’t even lived yet.

This is our first time living life. Give yourself a break. Be quick to forgive yourself and others and be slow to judge. Take every situation as is without applying your presuppositions and assumptions. We are bound to make mistakes. We are going to make poor decisions, as are the people around us. It is a choice to be offended. It is a choice to tear ourselves down. We do not have to choose the negative over the positive, though it seems to be much easier to dwell in the negative and see bad in every situation. This is evidenced by our daily feeds and news. Understand this: it is much easier for us to have a pessimistic and judgemental attitude because it requires less effort. To be positive towards others and ourselves requires thoughtfulness, empathy, understanding. We will always be more likely to choose the path of less resistance.

Much of what we experience in life is new. You can not expect yourself to be perfect, nor can you hold others to this standard. Let’s give ourselves some grace.